Believing people

Humans are incredibly complex beings with many layers and as a result, we all experience different versions of the same person. Siblings experience the same parent differently even though they all live under the same roof and have the same relationship (parent-to-child). The way the first-born child experiences their parents is very different from how the last born (if there are two or more children) experiences them. If the eldest says that her mother is “XYZ”, the youngest has no right to say that they are lying simply because they experienced her as “ABC”; more than one thing can be true at once. Someone can be a great father and rapist at once, a sweet boyfriend but monstrous neighbour, and a loving parent who is a nightmare to work with.

Children start realising the benefits of not being truthful from as young as three years of age – sometimes even before they learn how to talk so how do you ever feel confident enough to publicly defend someone against an allegation as if you could not possibly comprehend the true depths of what people are capable of? Riddle me that. 

No one knows anyone well enough to deny the accusations against them if they were not there when the event took place. Believing what someone is telling you because you give them the benefit of the doubt is by no means a crime, but please realise that you are giving them “the benefit of the doubt” and they have not proven their innocence. We do not know what people are truly capable of until they do it. To go out and publicly defend someone simply because you believe they would never do such a thing is naïve and foolish. If you do believe what they tell you, believe them in your heart, keep your mouth shut and pray that they are innocent. Ask yourself, if your friend were indeed a rapist, would they readily confess to such a heinous crime? Do you expect your friend that denies farting in public because of shame to admit to you that they forced themselves on someone? 


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  1. AnonymousJuly 5, 2020 at 1:29 PM

    This is a difficult subject, and you have put it nicely and truthfully. Yes, believing a person is being biased in a way. We are not even sure of what we, ourselves, are capable of doing until when you are at a situation where you have to act or react. Who are we to believe what people present to us. So brother, keep them coming. We are ready for such truths.

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  2. Sibusiso SpondoJuly 5, 2020 at 3:43 PM

    Thank you so much for your kind words and I'll try my best 🙏🏿

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